Friday, July 20, 2012

The Birth of Intoxicating Vixen

You know, when people ask me about my business and the name of it, I
always get a second look.

Typical convo:

Unsuspecting Victim: You own a boutique? That’s pretty cool

Me: Yes it is, I LOVE it

Unsupsecting Victim: Whats the name of it?

Me: *smile* Intoxicating Vixen…

Unsupecting Victim: *clutches pearls* ohhhh, ummmm…what kind of
boutique is it with a name like that?

Growing up I was a tom boy. My mom was a tom boy, so she didn’t really
know how to do girly things with me.  I grew up watching GI Joe, Power
Rangers, He-man, all the boy cartoons, because that’s what my mother
watched with me.
My mom was also very poor.  I can remember being dragged with her to
the welfare office often and waiting there for hours.   The clothes
she would get me were just horrible.  In my moms defense, clothes and
girly stuff were not her specialty, and that’s okay….thats when my
grandmother took over.  Lol Her favorite store used to be Lord &
Taylor, she would take me there and spend so much money I really
thought that I was a princess when I was with her.  

She let me know early on, that one day I would become a woman, I was only given one body, I should always treat it with care and respect, dont abuse it and never allow anyone else to abuse it, be careful what I put into it and who I have around it, and lastly, whenever I step out, whatever I have on should make a statement.

As a little girl I used to go with her to meetings and events, and in predictable Libra fashion, she was always dressed to kill and had the type of charm that would knock you off your feet. 

Lol I have a story about the following picture.  Now I know that Baby Phat is not exactly hot anymore, but this picture was taken 2004ish when everyone was wearing it, my grandmother wasn’t a name brand junkie so she was unaware.  She calls me up for one of our many chats and tells me “Shimi, ever since I was around your age, I wanted a fire engine red leather jacket! And now that I’m 79 I got it! I’m going to wear it to my birthday dinner!”

And as you can see, she stepped out in that jacket and you could not tell her that she wasn’t a diva on that day (or any other day for that matter).  A few years later, she grew tired of that jacket, and gave it to me, she said “I’m reaching middle age territory now, so you can have it” lol

Anyways, when I made my mind up to open my own boutique, I couldn’t think of a name. I knew the type of clothes that I wanted to carry, I knew the mission statement, and the only thing missing was the name. I pitched “Intoxicating Vixen” and “Venomous Vixen” to my work wife, as many of you know, the wife usually has the final say, she told me “Intoxicating Vixen”. So I had to run it by one more person to make it official.

So a little over a year ago, during our many evenings together, I tell my grandmother that I finally have a name for the boutique “Intoxicating Vixen”…she gives me a look and a smile, ha any time she gave me that look and that smile things could go incredibly great or drastically bad. In true grandmother fashion, she quizzed me, I really remember the convo like it was yesterday…

Ganny: Hmmm sounds kind of risqué, why’d you choose a name like that?

Me: *crazy nervous look on my face* well ganny, ummmm…ahhhhh….

Ganny: With all this umming and ahhing you’re doing, by the time you finish, our dinner will be cold, get to it

Me: Well…I chose the name because now that I’m getting older, being a mom myself, working, and just dealing with life itself, I sometimes forget about that magic that I possess, and I also see a lot of other women forgetting about the magic the posses.  Take your daughter (my mom) for example, I can count on one hand how many times I’ve seen her look and feel amazing….

Ganny: mmmhmmm…but your ganny, honey, even in my 80’s I haven’t forgot about my magic, you see these legs?!?!? (lol she really did have amazing legs, better than most 20 years olds)

Me: ANYWAYS Ganny, I want to name the boutique Intoxicating Vixen, because I believe every woman has the fire inside of them, everyone is a Vixen to some extent and every woman is naturally Intoxicating, you just have to bring it out of them.  Given that the boutique is only going to sell exclusive items that people probably won’t see on another person in their area, it’ll add a “WOW” factor.

Ganny: At first I was a little iffy about the name, but hearing your reasoning has sold me. I love it. I know you like to vamp it up, so it fits.  Just own it, when people ask you about the name, you have to say it proudly, no doubts. And believe me, people will ask about the name….

She winked at me and we ate our dinner together, and then went for a walk so she could show off her legs J

I miss her.

Saturday, July 7, 2012

Happy B-day to my Crab

It was my munchkin's birthday so we went to Six Flags NJ, he loves animals and that particular six flags has a safari.  He LOVED it.  My mother and him happen to share the same birthday, so we all celebrate together.  The e-boutique was on "closed" mode while I was away, I didn't want anyone to get late orders, however its open again :)

Here's his bday morning video, lol and thats my annoying younger brother talking in the background, I swear, no matter how old they get, they still remain annoying as heck:

I have a few personal things on my mind that I want to discuss, but its early in the morning, and I tend to like to open up at night, so I will wait on it. 

Exciting things for the boutique coming up, as a little girl, I always wanted to have my own business and just seeing my boutique blossom is amazing.  Just the fact that I had an idea, I worked to make that idea into a reality, and now I am able to put smiles on people's faces. For women to tell me that they love the stuff that I have to offer at the store, they wear it and feel like a brand new woman....I don't know, I just never thought that I could help people on that type of level, and seeing that I have, it makes me smile.  I am not the most social, but I do love helping people behind the scenes, this boutique actually makes me happy, it gives me purpose. 

Some days I feel like "I'm JUST Shimika" or "I'm JUST a regular old single mom" or "I'm JUST a college drop out with wasted potential" or whatever else I "JUST" am at the current moment in time. That "JUST" word might be the worst word ever created.  "Just" almost seems like its next to nothing.  Usually the only thing that could get me out of "just mode" was seeing my son smile, but now, thinking about people who have reached out to me about how happy they are with their clothing also gets me out of "just mode".  Insecurities are what makes us human, dealing with those insecurities is what separates the strong from the weak.

I think I will have my work wife Karen of Embellished Memory Designs make personalized framed affirmations for me.  I can pretty much hang them in my house and have my visitors think I am the most arrogant girl ever jking...they will JUST be reminders of JUST how awesome I am.

So far:

"I am JUST Shimika, you know, the insanely beautiful, wild, sassy, smart and funniest woman that you've been granted the pleasure of knowing? Be thankful and pay homage" 

"I am JUST Q's mom, the 5 year old ball of energy thats curious, talkative, smart, and a headache all wrapped up in an adorable chocolate package of sweetness.  Most people wouldn't be able to keep up with him, but I'm JUST merely a supermom" 

"I am JUST the owner of Intoxicating Vixen, you know, the fabulous e-boutique that brings out the inner vixen that all women possess? yeah, I'm JUST the woman that loves to bring that side out of all women."
These aren't the final statements, I just kind of came up with these off the top of my head so I might change them a little.  But in total I want about 5, well 6, I want one for my son to hang up in his room. I really need this, I get caught up so much with whats going on in my mind, visual affirmations that I'm forced to look at will be a great balance.  I haven't asked Karen yet, but by the time she sees this, I guess that will be my way of asking her, lol and hopefully by that time I will have the other 3 that I want.  I think she can make these affirmations amazingly eye friendly with her top notch embellishments.  I can't wait to show you guys what she comes up with, and yes I will blog about it 

Geeesh I said that I didn't want to open up right now, and actually this wasn't even what I had planned to discuss, but I suppose, once you just start writing you just can't stop.
Today is a thrift store run, I dont have my son, and its nice out, sooooo why not.  

I hope everyone enjoys their Saturday