Happy Mommy's Day!

Ha! I had a bit of free time to myself this weekend and I enjoyed every second of it. 

Did a little thrifting...copped my new favorite shirt of all time for $5, got soooo many compliments when I wore it, will def have to take a picture of it.  The bottom half looks as if its inspired by a corset, and the sleeves are lace, two things I love. So yeah that was my mommy's day gift to myself.

Took a driving lesson on Saturday morning...I have yet to get my drivers license...no judging...I'm a late bloomer! I take my last driving lesson next weekend and then go take the test on the 24th of May....to say that I'm excited is an understatement! The funny thing is I'm no longer nervous in traffic, but geeesh, parking? I get the logistics of it, but still need practice. Please wish me luck! The thing is, I'm a perfectionist and its my biggest downfall, I hate making mistakes so when I make even a small one, I get extra nervous.

Warning...here are the signs of a BAD DAUGHTER...I didn't get my mom her gift until yesterday right before I was scheduled to hang out with her...she said she just wanted gift cards, so I ran to the mall and got her a couple of different ones and some Godiva chocolate.  We exchanged our gifts, she got me a gift card from coach, lol I wasn't thrilled considering ummm...I haven't been to coach in years, but I took a quick look at their site and I will be getting this phonecase/wallet accessory, perfect considering I need a new phonecase and wallet soooooooo Thanks Mommy!!!!

For mothers day, my mom had to work so we kept it really low key this year and I decided not to get inspired by Juicy J's "Everytime I go out, you know I gotta show out!!!"...I didn't wear anything from the boutique, just a simple black outfit, we went to a place close by to her house, Dogwood, and ate dinner, I enjoyed our time together.

Oh and yes, check out IV's ad over at Fashion Bomb Daily!
http://fashionbombdaily.com/

Hope all the ladies had a wonderful mother's day!

-Shimika/IV

Notes to myself....

So I find myself using facebook as a means to writing public "notes to myself" in regards to friendship, spirituality, humility, relationships, parenting, etc.   A little known fact about me is that I love to write, not stories, just thoughts.  Facebook kind of forces me to be concise because I hate long statuses, but on this avenue I can delve more into my thoughts.

Over the years friends and strangers have told me that they love my "notes to self" and even go as far as to write them down and apply them to their own lives.  lol I am always beaming on the inside when someone tells me that they can actually relate to what I am saying!

Which brings me to this...last week I attended the Next Generation Women of Color Summit (organized by the Young Black Women's Society) and had an amazing time. Alicia Adamson the founder spoke, she asked the attendees to close their eyes and think about when they are at their BEST...I envisioned myself helping myself and others....she then asked what is the point of having talents if you are going to hide those talents from the world? Don't hide your gifts...share them.

For more on YBWS you can go here http://www.ybws.org/


When I first started this blog I made it known that it wouldn't be just about the boutique, because I think an Intoxicating Vixen embodies growth, experience, womanhood, etc. Somehow life got in the way and for a while I have only been blogging about the boutique, but that will change.

Now to start off, I am by no means am an expert on anything, I'm an observer.  I observe my own life and other's lives and just....well...learn through experiences.

Note to self....

The more you try to control someone's perception of you, the further you drift away from your reality.  Never take ownership of someone's problem or praise of you, its not yours to own.  Opinions are not tangible, forever changing, and they are not here to define you.

A lot of times, I feel like we sacrifice our true selves in exchange for the way we want (or don't want) people to perceive us. Regardless of if you are playing a role or if you are truly being yourself, some people are going to like you and other people will not. If someone doesn't like you, is it your responsibility to make them like you? If someone does like you, is it your responsibility to make sure that they continue to like you?

I know for myself in the past, if someone didn't like me, my first thought would be "What am I doing wrong? why don't they like me?" ...feelings of inadequacy would flood me, even though I never publicly said so.

If someone did like me, a part of me would pat myself on the back and make an effort to KEEP doing whatever I was doing so that they would continue to like me....never mind the fact that if what I was doing was hindering my growth in life, ha...."praise" was more important than "right"

Basically, its your real responsibility is to be yourself, whoever that is.  The world is not your stage to act on, the world is your foundation to GROW on.

-Shimika IV

Anarchy...

I am sooo thrilled to unveil IV's newest addition just in time for the spring (although this piece would look amazing in any season)! Anarchy is truly rebellious yet mesmorizing.  Anarchy allow you to make a bold statment fashion wise...

 

"I wasn't created to conform to the world, I was created to intoxicate it"

 

Anarchy will be available on www.IntoxicatingVixen.com shortly, I was so excited about her I had to give a preview!!!

 

 

I love this piece because its different and not trendy.  Wearing something like this will blow minds, the stictching shows enough skin to captivate yet its not raunchy. The possibilities are endless as well, throw on some heels and something as simple as a manbeater with the right accessories? Watch the heads turn! I can't wait to wear these in the spring, its about time my inner biker girl gets a little shine!

 

Hope all is well!



 

Shimika/IV 



Happy Valentine's Day!!!

I decided to treat my Intoxicating Vixen to a beautiful logo as a Valentine's day treat....Maria over at Galeria Di Luce did an FABULOUS job...

I hope you ladies enjoy your Valentine's day!  I recently had to remind someone (and myself), you're appreciated EVERYDAY, not just on Valentine's day, sometimes we forget.

-Shimika/IV

Toxic!!!!

Hey!!!!

I'm so excited about IV's newest piece, Toxic, a McQueen inspired skull clutch that is breathtaking....

lol Don't mind my skinny witch fingers! But the skull hardware paired with the jewels and animal print make this piece a MUST HAVE. 

AND the 15% off sale is still going on, with the code "THANKS"

Unfortunately I have to run but I can't wait to write about this amazing blog geared towards black women that IV was featured in! And the holiday outfit suggestions! 

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend 

-Shimika

Small Business Saturdays/Belle!

Hey Ladies,
I hope EVERYONE enjoyed their Thanksgiving.  I didn't think that mine would be great, I actually hosted it at my house this year and I'm not the best cook, but I'm determined to learn.  Lets just say that I had NO food left, I was so pleased about it.  I checked out a really great blog for some ideas, Divas Can Cook.  Lets just say that her Pomegranate (Adult) Punch was a huge hit with my family, it was delicious!!!! My family deemed me the official Holiday Hostess, I can NOT wait for Christmas to come around, I am already thinking about the menu!

In honor of Small Business Saturdays, I am offering a 15% discount off your whole entire order ANNNNNND it s not just good for ONE Saturday, its good for a few weeks.  This would be a great time to visit www.IntoxicatingVixen.com to get a gift for yourself or a special Vixen in your life! The 15% is good until 12/21/2012...I seriously can not tell you how thankful I am for my customers.

 

The code for the 15% off is THANKS

Intoxicating Vixen's newest dress is....well, I want to say simply breathtaking, however NOTHING about her is simple at all....Complexly Breathtaking is more appropriate! Belle def ensures that you are the Belle of the Ball, no question about it!

check her out! 

http://www.intoxicatingvixen.com/product/belle

Don't forget to take advantage of the 15% off!!!! THANKS

The beautiful watch "Grandiose" has been restocked.  Everyone falls in love with this amazing piece. Whenever I wear it, I get so many questions about it!

Check her out!

www.intoxicatingvixen.com/product/grandiose

 Don't forget to take advantage of the 15% off!!!! THANKS ;)

The next post I do is a really exciting one, it'll break down some of the pieces IV carries and describe what type of woman/event these pieces would work best for....if you're looking for Christmas gifts, this will be a great post to keep an eye out for!

Thank you so much for reading! 

Mika :)

Short hair never cared!

In honor of my Dirty Flirty 30th, I chopped off my hair and I LOVE it.  The styles I can do are endless...actually going to do a youtube tutorial in a few weeks on a style, can't wait. Here it is...

For all of my life I've had long hair, so this is quite a change for me...I think it was the perfect birthday present to myself

Also I said that I would share the free gift that I ordered for my valued customers, these super cute keychains...

And of course my munchkin lost his tooth, ha he was actually trying to negotiate with me about how much the tooth fairy should leave him!

Hope you all had an Intoxicating weekend! 

-Ms. Dirty Flirty 30